Now, we’ve all heard multiple sayings pertaining to beauty and its perception:

  • Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder
  • Beauty is only skin deep
  • Inner beauty is all that matters

just to name a few. Growing up we’ve been assaulted with images of what can be considered beautiful. Yet what people don’t tell you is that they are throwing their standard of beauty at you. It’s not a societal concept simply because there are so many differing opinions.

I’ve got the media telling me that I have to be tall, thin yet curvaceous, with long flowing hair, perfect skin, straight white teeth, and a personality to match. But at the same time, I’ve got boys whispering around saying women are beautiful without makeup. They want them au naturale. And then there’s family. There’s “you’ve gained a lot of weight” and “eat more! You’re too skinny!!”. There’s “why are you taking so long to get ready? You’re fine just the way you are!”

But no one ever asks what I want. If I want to flat iron my hair and wear makeup, why can’t I? Why can’t I put in the time and effort to put together a look that makes me comfortable? One that makes me feel confident? One that makes me feel beautiful? I could be the best looking person in a room (objectively speaking), but if I don’t believe in it, if I’m not happy with the way I look at that moment, I won’t believe a word anyone tells me otherwise. 

One instance I can think of is last week I went to brunch with a friend. Usually she’s a tomboyish type (nothing wrong with that, I was that way until I felt more comfortable wearing makeup and non baggy clothes). She would go out, with standard tshirt and jeans, jacket, and sneakers. Now she’s not an ugly person, she’s quite pretty - plenty of guys have agreed. Now, when we went out last week, she looked different. When we were out, she seemed radiant, glowing, she was just so damned beautiful.

I’m not a makeup guru, but I know that she was wearing powder, a lip taint, light blush, and eyeliner - not too much in my opinion. It was simple, barely noticeable; but for some reason I couldn’t keep my eyes off of her. She was gorgeous to me because she felt it. She felt more confident and more beautiful, and it showed. This happiness and confidence came from within, and that’s what drew my eye. She was so happy with the way she looked that I could just sense it. She was still the same person she always was, but she held herself differently, she smiled more, she didn’t shrink away. 

At that moment I knew that she was completely comfortable with herself - for the time being at least. And that’s what I want to see from others - especially the people I care about (includes you, followers! …even if you don’t talk to me >.>), and that’s what I want to see from myself. So look how you want, wear what you want, eat what you want, just be happy.

…except drugs, don’t do drugs.